Friday 31 January 2014

Confrontation



 This aspect of social interaction is hard for me. My heart just starts to pound really loud when I have to tell someone I'm angry or upset. Putting aside the many phone calls that need to be made to Dr. Phil, this is actually about a specific incident.

So what happened is that recently someone shouted at me for something and I after giving myself 5 motivational speeches and introspecting endlessly pushed myself to go tell that person that I did not appreciate their behavior. Here are some observations on what happened :-

1. Whatever you planned to say, be certain it will not be what you end up saying. You think It will go from A to B in this logical sequence. What happens however is you go from A to T then D and then she/he says something in between and you think oh right “B C” *wink wink

2. The scenario you have imagined in your head will do a 180 degree flip in the real life situation For instance I imagined a real fight; curses flying back and forth, me giving comebacks like a boss and in the end the other person realizing their mistakes and saying sorry. What happened was that the female was ready to listen I explained my issues she explained hers we exchanged sorry and the end, goodnight. Stupid civility!

3. It’s disappointing, like really disappointing, in my case I dint like the attitude and I could have said something to something blah blah. It’s like in criminal minds the serial killer keeps killing cause it’s not perfect, the way he imagined it.. Horrifying analogy but drives home the point.

4. Most surprising thing is that it’s easy; you don't need Martin Luther king to write you a speech you don't even need a knockout punch like Mike Tyson to make your point. A simple I heard you out now your turn and next time say it nicely, totally works. . assuming they aren't douche-bags, if they are why are you bothering?

Side note: Its worth mentioning that during the introspection I realized one of the reasons I’m bad at confrontation is cause I care too much about other people’s opinions and I dint need to because well why, they judge me for their own reasons not because they want to know the truth or something but mostly because they want to validate themselves so why should I worry about that?

More power to the emotionally impaired :p

In conclusion congratulations to me for emerging victorious. 


Friday 10 January 2014

No zen

Did you know that if you have missed your flight, you're not allowed to leave the terminal till someone from the airline signs you out and if they are not available well you can sit there and introspect on how you finally reached this milestone.

To clarify-I had 2 flights on the same day and because of crazy incidents with the first, I couldn't make the second.

All I have to say is that people are annoying just very annoying. This person took my bag from the baggage claim and left before realizing it wasn't theirs. In that space of one hour When i couldn't find my bag my mind was playing every cheesy sad song it could remember *jag suna suna lage, yahi ant ki shuruat hai, why this kolaveri di. A playlist i didn't know existed in my brain.

My reaction to this entire incident was- dread, panic, and anger basically no evolved actualization moments at all. This is what i was introspecting when there was no staff at the terminal to escort me out. why am i so unbalanced?

Though in the end i did get to spend 2 awesome days at my friends place with my sister, we ate junk food, watched dragon riders of berk and roamed the city meeting other friends of mine there, so it was pretty cool.

Moral of the story if you miss your flight make sure its in a city where you have a couch you can crash on and lots of amazing friends